Personal Exercise Trainer Shares The Missing Link For Weight Loss
The Missing Link For Weight Loss
How many questions do you ask yourself on a regular basis? Tony Robbins, who’s worth millions and has coached tens of thousands of people, says, “Don’t worry about your how, focus on your why.“ The “how” is the steps you take, the program you follow, the weights you lift, and the food you eat. I would say those are pretty important, right? Well, they are, but your why is even more important. A personal exercise trainer should be well-versed in the coaching aspects of training, but unfortunately, not all are.
Surprisingly, coaching and most other intricacies of personal training are usually not a core part of any certifications. That’s why I wrote this article. I want to give you the power of investigative questioning. This gives you the power to re-align your life and push you through any barrier currently holding you back.
In this article, I’ll show you a way to ask yourself quality questions to help you reach your goals without a coach.
But first you must adhere to a core principle of coaching: the questions we ask ourselves generate the results we get.
This means we want to ask questions that dig down to the roots of ourselves. However, not any question will do. We want to utilize investigative questioning.
This is a personal exercise tool professional coaches are trained to use. You’ll learn enough in this article to start using it on yourself and see great progress.
Let’s dive into a short conversation I had recently with a client. This is a real life example where I used the investigative questioning technique.
Investigative Coaching
Each question is strategic in nature. Try to read the questions aloud and pay attention to your first reaction. Training this type of awareness is critical to see better results in yourself.
Remember, the question is primarily used to unfold layers of hidden motives, feelings, and emotions through the questioning process. This is a team effort and the client and I already had a deep sense of trust, compassion, and partnership together.
Coach: “Why do you want to lose weight?”
Client: “I want to look good.”
Coach: “Why do you want to look good?”
Client: “I want to feel better about myself.”
Coach: “If you feel better about yourself what will that do for you?”
Client: “It will transform other areas of my life. I will be more confident and courageous. I’ll have control over my life again.”
Coach: “You feel out of control when you’re not in shape?”
Client: “Unfortunately, yes. I know that’s probably not a healthy way to think, but it’s how I feel.”
Coach: “Thank you for sharing that with me. It’s perfectly normal to have these thoughts and you’re not alone in having them. You’d be surprised at how many other people think the exact same thing. I propose we work on losing weight while we keep the conversation open about finding more control in your life. Are you open to this?”
Client: “Yes, I think I can do that. I’m ready.”
Personal Self Narratives
In this short conversation we unveiled a fear of losing more control and we were able to identify it as a limiting factor to weight loss. What started out as wanting to look good ended up somewhere entirely different.
Sometimes, when we focus on what we don’t have enough of, inevitably we lose more of it. In this case, the client had lost control over many aspects of their life. This led to controlling food in an unhealthy way to sustain a feeling of control in their life.
If we had stopped the conversation at “I want to lose weight because I want to look good,” we would have never found the client’s true motive for wanting to lose weight.
Without the true motive it’s hard to dig in deep when the going gets tough because the “Why am I doing this” is very shallow.
Now we know with this client the “why” behind losing weight is to gain more control of their life in general and form a new relationship with food.
Learn and Apply This Personal Exercise
Now that you learned something new, don’t wait to use it. Ask yourself the same questions today. Try it out right now and use a pen and paper.
If you don’t want to try it alone, ask your personal exercise trainer if they have been trained in investigative or motivational coaching. Maybe they can assist you in unravelling your hidden motives and emotions driving behaviors. If they have not been trained in this form of coaching, I would recommend trying this by yourself or with a close friend or family member.
If you think you need some help and guidance but you don’t have anyone to help you, give me a call or shoot me a message on Facebook.
I’d be happy to help you navigate through this and I don’t expect anything in return.
Here at Lift Life we believe in lifting others up, not just physically but mentally. We know we wouldn’t be as successful as we are today without the help of others and we strongly want to pay that forward. You are not alone. Reach out to us today.
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